Wednesday, December 30, 2009


I think my sister forwarded this to me at the end of last year. I pull it up every now and then as a reminder. When i read it to myself, it's in my angry rant voice... but in a good way. That ole' "wake up, boy" tone that only a close friend or family member can get away with. I feel like the message is timeless.

So.. one more time...before the ball drops...

10.... nine.... 8...... seven.....


Rules for 2009 2010 

Make realistic goals for yourself, write them down, pray about them and try to achieve them!

Go through your cell phone, caller id, calendar, and email addresses and discard all the people and events that mean you no good or don't benefit your life!

Stop making excuses about your life and make changes!

If you are involved w/ a person, job, or circumstance that is doing more harm than good, do yourself a favor - LET IT GO!

Stop being someone's mistress; especially if you are aware that you are!!!!

If you are between the ages of 22-35 please start listening to more than Hip-Hop!

Take care of your kids and devote a weekend or two when you spend "quality" time with them. Who cares if you miss out on a "mix"! You can party anytime!

Get your debt in order! Eventually you'll want a nice home and car in your name!

Stop spreading senseless rumors and try to get your own life in order!

Listen more! Talk Less!

Give without worrying about it!

Tell him (or her) no for once!

Tell people you love them before your hear about some great tragedy in the world or lose a close friend!

Speak clearly and not ignorantly! Anyone can be a fool.

If you are married, stop cheating. If you're guilty of this, ask God to forgive you and don't do it again! Remember the Ten Commandments.

Stop waiting on Tax Season and Save Now!

Eat what you need and not just because you can!

See how long you can go without checking your cell phone when it's not ringing.

Be more positive and stop being a grouch! I didn't do it to you boo!

STOP HATIN! If you don't like my style, kick rocks! DO YOU!

Start telling your children that when you're having a "grown folks" conversation, they need to go play. (Remember back when)

Appreciate everyone. WHY do we put each other down for the most ridiculous things?!?

If you are a person of color and you live w/or work in a white environment don't be the one showing the latest dances, singing the new Jay-Z or teaching Ebonics. Be better not bitter!

Men and women! Cry more! It's therapeutic.
Stop tripping about not being where you want to be! What have you been doing to get there?!?

If you aren't in relationship, it's not the end of the world! Self love is more valuable!

Keep your opinion to yourself! We all know what others should do, but what about you?

If God delivers you from a messy relationship, friend or situation, why do you keep PULLING THEM BACK? Let it go!

FORGIVE! FORGIVE! FORGIVE! All of us have been forgiven for some low life things! So open your heart! Remember - God forgave you.

Men, stop trying to be so hard when it comes to relationships. Let that guard down before you lose the one that's meant for you!

Speak up for yourself!

Learn a new hobby! Broaden your mind.

If you're single, start going on more dates with different types of people. Don't just stick to the same type of woman or man!

Stop forwarding all the text messages you receive; everyone doesn't have unlimited text messages!!

Stop replying to ALL!

Live like today like is your last day, love like God taught us, and laugh like you've never laughed before!

Lastly, if it's only 5 minutes a day have a little talk with Jesus (or whoever HE is to you)!
Let Him know you want to be better today than you were yesterday and watch Him turn things around for you!

Sunday, December 27, 2009

Sunday, December 20, 2009

my WEAKNESS (revealed)...

Yea... talk sh**, flex those abs, and grind your body all you want... but at the end of the day-- I AM just a sucker for a killer SMILE

Wednesday, December 16, 2009

hiding in PLAIN sight...

In the not too distant past, i stood on a Midtown street and wondered - "How could Michael be standing directly in front of me, and still not SEE me?"

I am often asked, 'why am i still single?' The answer is, I am rarely allowed the opportunity to meet people. I don't mean the physical meeting, i mean.. really MEET someone. To really get to know someone and allow them the chance to get to know me. Before I am given the chance to INTRODUCE MYSELF, people have already limited me to a preconceived notion. Where I come from... What my intentions are... What I am thinking...

Because of the way I speak (or write).. the way I dress... the music I listen to... the books or publications that I read... Instead of taking the time to engage me in conversation, i am quickly categorized. Reduced to the most convenient label at the moment.

Because THEY never take the time to listen, here are a couple of things that THEY will never hear... (just a lil peek into the REAL me)
*i am an a$$ and leg man
*i still believe in magic
*i have a love/hate thing going on with M&Ms
*i feel connected to the full moon
*i know the soundtrack to SCHOOLDAZE by heart
*i once made an ex boyfriend wear a shirt that read 'kryptonite', because i was powerless against him

...and apparently, I am shamelessly CORNY :)

Monday, December 14, 2009

all in the FAMILY...

Gotta love the SMITHs. The family is quickly becoming a Hollywood DYNASTY. Its refreshing to see a family in the biz, who is maintaining their popularity thru virtues - and not negative press. KUDOS!

Monday, December 7, 2009

no FAIR :(

Okay, so here is the thing... the MAN is well-spoken, has a sexy british accent, 6'4, a business owner... and looks like... *sigh*. I mean, tell me-- is that FAIR? I dont thinks so... he better be bad a math or something *frown+ pout*

Friday, December 4, 2009

a CYBER crush...

So, i have a bit of a crush on this dude. I know nothing about him--- not that I couldn't easily find out (can you say "facebook"?). But sometimes, its fun to keep a bit of mystery. Call me jaded, but i have had too many fantasies destroyed when 'Mr. Dream-Man' opens his mouth.

Nah, i rather he doesn't tell me about the issues he has with his sexuality, or his fear of commitment, or his ...[insert issue here*]...

Shhhh, for right now, you just stand there and look pretty for daddy *wink*

Tuesday, December 1, 2009


Today is World AIDS Day. A day of AWARENESS and EDUCATION. I am taking to the time out, to break form, and ask my friends... 'when was the last time you were tested?'

Saturday, November 21, 2009

Thursday, November 19, 2009

The way we MET...

Working out ...

Listening to music to hasten the clock... I did the nautilus chest press, and he took to the free weight bench press directly in front of me. I barely noticed the way his grey sweats hung off his waist and the way his tank showed off his torso. Per usual, I dismissed the notion of eye contact and maintained my gaze towards to rubber mat flooring. A couple of reps later... The testosterone in me couldn't help but notice... Holy sh**, dude was weak! Struggling with a 45 on each end of the bar. I laughed to myself and instantly added to THE RULE BOOK.

note to self -Rule# 417, never date a dude who cant lift as much as you.

i spend a few more seconds enjoying my private joke, and i am back to business...

On my last set... I noticed dude had doubled the weight on the bar. Okay... now he has my attention.


One glance and I am caught. He peeps me watching his bench, smirks and nods. I quickly return my attentions to the floor. By the time I look back up to make sure the coast is clear... he is struggling with the weight. I look around and no one else is aware.

Crap... (*again).

I get up and quickly walk behind the bench and pull the weight off of him. He looks up at me, smiles and says.... ummm....something? (*I still had my ipod on). I assume he said the obligatory 'thanks' and proceed back to my machine. Before I can take a second step... HE is standing up in front of me, blocking my path. This is the first time I truly see him. He is beautiful. He is taller than me, maybe 6'1, his is dark brown skinned. Not just brown.. But the color of warm chocolate - FLAWLESS. I am suddenly aware of his cologne. He smiles and his face comes into focus .. inviting... and his teeth are straight, white and enveloped by his perfectly shaped lips.

He would later tell me... he faked the whole thing with the weights... *yea, right* He follows me threw my front door, and tosses his gym bag next to mine. I sit on my couch, close my eyes, and throw my head back. He sits next to me and lays his head in my lap,... again, his scent peaks my awareness. i laugh to myself, thinking about him struggling on that bench press so long ago...

just then, he tilts his head up...'what you smiling about?'

Sunday, November 15, 2009

Thursday, November 5, 2009

Sunday, November 1, 2009


Something so irresistible about a well-dressed man...

Saturday, October 31, 2009

my FAVORITE holiday...

HALLOWEEN is my favorite holiday of the year. Well, okay.. on xmas you get gifts, and there really is no topping that... but that holiday aside, Halloween is my favorite. Being fortunate enough to grow up in the BAY AREA... I have had the chance to experience Halloween at its finest. Halloween in San Francisco... SERIOUSLY!!? Come on... the gays in SF invented the holiday.. then took it back, dressed it up in leather and latex and RE-PRESENTED it to the world. Ahhh.. there is nothing like a California childhood. Miss you, CASTRO!

Friday, October 30, 2009

Saturday, October 17, 2009

the HOT GAY NERD in me...

who doesnt love a school girl who can take a math test a noon and save the world before cheerleading practice...

Wednesday, October 14, 2009


does anyone else hear that lil wayne song in the background..?? 'I wish I could f*** EVERY BOY in the world..'