Only, a small peek...
So a couple of months ago I met this dude. And because I live in the Atl, and LOVE N HIPHOP is so true to life, he was an "industry dude".
I know what you are thinking, this is the part in the movie when you are yelling at the busty blonde "dont go in there!...and for god sakes, put a bra on." *giggles*
Anyways, we met and it was innocent enough at the beginning. I was attracted to his swag, his tats, his muscle-thick body, all those shiny things that initially catch your eye. He had his lil thug edge, but what most impressed me was his intelligence.
He told me he was attracted to my swag, my smile, all this ass (kidding, i wish), and my whole "good guy" demeanor. I we had a typical opposites attract thing. For example, I barely curse and every other word out his mouth was f*ck this, and mutha-f*cka that. He'd make a habit of coming over to my spot, fitted cap and bag full of take out and we'd make an evening of it.
Things were casual ... then organically become a lil more than casual.
After a while, Dude was sending me mix signals. Sending me 'miss you' texts and the occasional gifts. Trying to be up under me at all times, and not just in the physical sense. But because of his industry ties, I could only have some much of him. He was essentially DL.
After a couple weeks of being in a sudo-relationship whenever it suited his needs, I decided to end the arrangement. He was cool with that, or so I thought. After a couple of days, dude was texting me non-stop and constantly telling me he was near my place,asking for an invite. He told me he could see a future for us. But one that involved a huge closet-- and not the 'his and his' walk-in that I am after.
Even now, the dude sends the occasional text. We are cool now, but he is aware that no matter how much he flirts, we are not going down that path again.
Thank god you dodged that bullet. I can not stand men on the DL. It is so selfish to ask someone to bend over backwards for your ass and only live to comfort your fears.
ReplyDeleteSo don't give DL guys the time of day.
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